Great(?!) Expectations

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photo by Heather Luxion

I was thinking about expectations today and the fact that they really can be both good and bad (at least for me!). I’ve lost count of the number of times I’ve set myself up for disappointment by putting all these expectations of greatness upon another person, a trip, a particular event or situation, etc. only to realize after the fact that if I’d gone in without an assumption that things were going to be “epic-level amazing” or “the best thing ever” that I would have been able to better enjoy the situation at whatever level it came in at.

After contemplating my own feelings of frustration at expectations and wondering if it really is a bad thing to have them in all cases, I decided to scrounge around online for inspiration and other viewpoints. Here are two quotes I found:

“The best things in life are unexpected –
because there were no expectations.”

— Eli Khamarov

“The expectations of life depend upon diligence;
the mechanic that would perfect his work
must first sharpen his tools.”

— Confucius

I think these two viewpoints together best sum up my own conclusions on the subject: that like so many other things in life, having expectations takes walking a fine line of balance and moderation. It’s a mixture of having hope without being too attached to the outcome of the situation (balance of hope/expectations and detachment/flexibility), of dreaming and wishing for what you want while also following these aspirations up with hard work and effort to make them happen. Ah, life, you do keep us on our toes!!

I’ll end with one last quote, one that has reminded me to “just be” and let things unfold naturally:

“Never idealize others. They will never live up to your expectations.
Don’t over-analyse your relationships. Stop playing games.
A growing relationship can only be nurtured by genuineness.”

— Leo F. Buscaglia

Just how I like it, Leo. Straight up honest opinion, no frills.

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“…A growing relationship can only be nurtured by genuineness.”
This is great. Just what I needed to hear right now. Not that I’m in a growing relationship, or anything… but just to remind myself that being me is enough.

Thanks for the insightful posts; I hope you’ll keep blogging!

Any chance you might set up an rss feed I can follow?

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Mona — Exactly! It’s just such a nice all-around reminder.

My RSS feed can be found here: http://www.heatherluxion.com/feed (Thanks for the reminder that I should add that in! It can now be found in the right-hand column under ‘Contact Heather’.)

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